For my article this week, i decided to dedicate to my brothers out there who are failing in the online dating scene. Attraction, as we learned in class, is key to kick starting any successful relationship. And as we learned in class, people prefer your online dating profile to have a lot of warranting (easily trackable data to know you're who you say you are) with very minimal self- selective presentation (making yourself look like the stud taking the mirror picture that you probably got off google images). But lets be real here, its 2015 and the ladies are expecting more than just a strong warranting profile to catch their heart. But how the hell are we suppose to send the message that cyber cutie that you both will eventually tell your kids about?
Well, my article "15 Things Women Wish You Knew Before Approaching Them Online", has quite a few different ways to add personality to that highly warranted profile and get you that message back. The first way to improve your online dating life: improve your "read about me" section. According to the author, who is a female, females read your about me and determine if you are time worthy by your about me section. Hence, the first key point i want to make to sure you are honest and show off you personality. If you lie or stretch the truth, it may help you in the long run. However, after a few messages or even the first date, she will be able to tell you lied and there goes that relationship down the drain.
Then next big mistake men make when approaching women online is to stop opening up with "hey" or "whats up" or even "howdy". Hey is for horses, and unless you are hitting on an actual horse or on farmersonly.com, it is probably a safe bet this will not yield the results you want. Women receive hundreds of messaged like this everyday, so step up your game and say something that will set you out from the crowd. Ask a question about her photos, what kind of stuff does she like, or what her kill death ratio is? The point here is to skip the awkward introduction every other guy does and get the conversation rolling. Even a compliment would work, but just keep the compliment clean. You would not go up to a random girl in the real world and say "Hey Sexy", "Hey you have a hot body", or "What was your favorite 50 Shades of Grey scene?" so keep it pg online too and compliment her smile or eyes. You know what they say, (appropriate) flattery will get you everywhere.
Another thing to keep in mind when hitting on that gorgeous girl (pending if she is the one on the left or right) in that profile picture is that if she rejects you to please keep your cool. As mentioned earlier, girls get hundreds of messages a day, so if one or two of them slip through the cracks it happens. Just let it go and move on. Chances are, unfortunately, after she didn't feel it or you just did not make that impression she was looking for. Don't be that guy to message her another 10 times or yell or complain to her about how she is missing out on a "great guy". It makes you come off as desperate, makes her feel weird, and is not what you are going for if a relationship is the goal. However, if you are looking for a block, a restraining order from someone you have never even met, or legal action then please disregard this entire paragraph as it does not pertain to you.
The final key aspect the article hits on is to keep this conversation rolling. No girl wants to sit on a computer or phone screen and be interrogated by a complete stranger. So be sure make the conversation fun instead of the boring question and answer tendency they seem to always have. Be playful with who you talking too, make jokes, and let you personality shine. According to the author, looks have little to nothing to do with attractiveness online! Women would rather have a guy with a great personality and good sense of how to dress over a perfect 10. All the reason to let that humor shine in the conversation.
In conclusion, our society is heading into a world where having cyber game with the ladies is just as important, if not more important, than having real life game. So if you find yourself struggling to get the ball rolling on the online dating scene, there is no need to worry. Most guys online are exactly like you, however, by taking the advice i have presented in this blog and by reading the article here, you can up you game and become the prince every cyber princess has been waiting for.
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