Friday, February 13, 2015

Online Dating

Are Attitudes Changing in Regards of Online Dating?
Eric Lenhart



                For some online dating can be a life saver for another online dating can seem like a bad idea. Online dating of course is a romantic relationship started over chat through shared information over the internet. Depending on the  individual experience, online dating can pan out and develop a long lasting romantic relationship. Evidence of this  is becoming more prevalent than originally thought, and online dating sites are hoping aboard the love train to rack in the dough (money).  In an Article by Discovery, the online dating company Match.com purchased one of their competitors OKcupid for a cash sum of 50 million dollars. If this company is making millions to billions in business involving online dating, something must be working online. To me I had my doubts of online dating, from hearing horrible stories of people meeting others that look nothing like they said they were to even gruesome news stories of stalkers and serial killers online dating just seemed to scary and unpredictable for me.  The MTV show Catfish did not help change my views on online dating either, mainly because the online hidden realm where anyone can be anyone.
                Those opposed to online dating and online dating sites cite that the authenticity of many of the members is what keeps them away. Often times people will fake out another person  by pretending to be someone else whether it be of a different gender or race these people intentionally mess with individuals to get a laugh or some type of thrill. The idea of being able to present yourself in so many different ways online and be able to be hidden and unknown is what ultimately keep people away from online chatting and dating. Proponents of this side think highly of traditional routes of dating and face to face communication.
                 After being rather skeptical myself of online dating, I decided to do some research. I read up on online dating by visiting match.com. the discoveries article and number of other articles. This weeks' assignment for lab involving the viewing of the documentary When Strangers Click and discussion questions also helped change my view of online dating. Instead of a rather creepy industry, online dating is very beneficial to those seeking a relationship when their frightened or shy with face to face communication. In another way online dating helps people get comfortable with each other in order to allow their relationship to blossom into reality romance. A startling statistic in the Discovery article is found by Rueben J. Thomas an Assistant Professor of Sociology at City University of New York, stating "we estimate that 23 percent of the couples in the United States who met in the two years 2007 and 2009 met online. More people meet online now than meet through school, work, church, bars, parties, etc." What I make out from this percentage is that more and more people are seeking a relationship online and are genuinely looking for a partner.
                Who exactly is online dating for? Well, online dating is mostly  for adults 18 and older, and seems to be more prevalent to the 30s to 40s age group. This range is mostly centered around the ideology that between the ages of 30 and 40 populations are largely already coupled and the search for someone seems dire. For most of these people a long lasting relationship is the goal and that is why dating sites don't translate to the younger demographic as much from 20-30. College students and other young adults have other ideas in mind than love, usually short lived sexual desire but that doesn't mean everyone is looking for a quick sex experience. Younger demographics turn to other forms of communication via apps to land a partner, examples are Kik and Tinder. Online dating isn't for everyone that is for sure. My opinion since researching has changed significantly on online dating. I do not plan on using the services but  there is always a possibility since it has worked for many people even in light of the risks. I see both the positives and negatives of online dating and being anonymous behind the computer chatting. There will always be adversaries but as long as connections are being made and long lasting relationships keep occurring more frequently, online dating might be changing some opinions, and creating a rather wealthy business industry.
Eric Lenhart

http://news.discovery.com/tech/does-online-dating-work.htm

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